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Do You Know How To Get A Second Date With A Woman - Part 2
1) DEVELOPING SEXUAL FLOW OR INTEREST. Now you don't want to TALK about SEXUAL stuff too much, but that does not mean you don't want to get the old sexual juices going. BUT you do that mostly non-verbally, not verbally (Unless she starts a sexual conversation with you.)
Now some of the DATING GURUS have real good courses on how a man can be sexy and get a woman's attention sexually. (David DeAngelo's course comes to mind.) And this is an in depth topic that is much too deep for my article here. So let's just say it is done with posture, manners, attitude, movement , voice rhythms, and the occasional moving in close and the withdrawing, or light touch or holding of the hand momentarily.
Verbally it is done with the right gradient of topic. If you do it right the woman will always give you a goodnight kiss as a further way of testing that sector out, and let you know by her non-verbal signals, whether you should continue or just let it go with a simple light kiss. It is better to develop it, make the woman want more, and walk away than to over reach and destroy everything else you have built up here. A simple hug, or a light kiss on the cheek or the mouth is what I do on 90% of my first dates that I am interested in.
2) CREATE FUTURE what is future? Well if you are going to have a relationship with someone, rather than just a one-date-goodbye. You have to have some future interaction. AND FUTURE IS NOT 'Can we go out again sometime.' That is definitely NOT FUTURE. That is a plea! Begging! And this will definitely scare them away. (Watch 'Blind Date' on TV some time.)
Future is scheduling something that you both would be interested in doing for whatever reasons, sometime in the future. Something with value to both of you. YOU may want to have SEX with the girl right away in the future.. BUT SHE DOESN'T- not yet.. She wants to get to know you a little better. So FUTURE is a way that she can get to know you a little better, before deciding if she wants to have a sexual relationship with you or not. GIRLS LIKE THAT. And girls like guys who understand that. YOU SEE the girl wouldn't go out on the first date with you if there weren't some possibility that she could have sex with you.
(BEING THERE is a subtle communication. She wouldn't be there if she wasn't somewhat interested.) So, unless you blow it, you will get sex eventually. HOWEVER, most guys DO blow it 9 out of 10 times instead of closing as I do 9 out of 10 times. So how to create FUTURE? Well on a date it is relatively easy. APPLY what I have said above. ASK QUESTIONS and LISTEN. She will tell you something that gives you a subtle opportunity to see her again, and it should be something she would be really interested in and it won't scare her off.
EXAMPLE OF WHAT WORKS:
While you are listening she talks about the math class she is taking in college she is having trouble with. You happen to me a math genius. You simply say, 'Well I am really good at math. If you would like some help with your homework. Let me know.' Then shut up. If she is interested in you, she will take the bait and say. 'Yeah, oh I would so appreciate that' or something of the sort.
If you have totally blown it by now and she doesn't want your help despite her learning disability, she won't take the bait. THAT WON'T HAPPEN unless you violated something else I have talked about here, and you talked about yourself too much, tried to be interesting, didn't listen, talked about sex or how pretty she was too much.
Another example is, while you are listening she says how she really likes to go dancing. So if you like dancing you say 'Really, me too. I love dancing, let's do that sometime.' Or if you don't like to dance, don't lie. Say 'Really, then maybe you could help me because I don't know a thing about dancing but I think its time I learned. Do you think you could teach me a little sometime.' GET IT. Come up with something you guys could do in the future that she and you would really like to do, that's not a plea 'Can we go out again?'
By the way FUTURE is the key to meeting girls on the street in the store etc. Lots of girls will give you their phone numbers but about 90% of the beautiful women I know say they would never have a relationship with someone they met that way. BUT if you can establish FUTURE right there on the street or on the first call you can destroy those odds. And REMEMBER FUTURE is NOT 'Can we go out sometime.' To a women that just means you want sex, and you are asking for it before you have established any other value to her.
You see, meeting girls who work in stores or restaurants is easier than stopping them on the street, because the situation already has future built in....you know where they work, you can come back again and again, she can get to know you.... FUTURE you see.
But, stopping a girl on the street and establishing FUTURE. Now that can be a challenge! But, I've done it. Many times. You apply the same principles above. Don't talk about yourself. Be interested in her. Ask questions. Listen to the answers. When she says the opportune thing that you can tell has value to her, then jump right in with some FUTURE.
About the author:
Mr L.Rx gives advice to men on how to meet, date, and relate to women. He is also available for private consultation and coaching. Additional information on this topic is available at www.DatingToRelating.com
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