Keeping Mum: Caring for Someone with Dementia
'At 3am I was startled awake by the opening of the stairgate. Leaping out of bed I found Mum, clothes on over her pyjamas, grumbling she was fed up of being moved from pillar to post and was going home.'
When her mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease, Marianne Talbot decided she couldn't put her into a care home. Instead, for five years, she looked after her mum in her own home. For nearly three of those years she chronicled for the readers of Saga Magazine Online the fears and frustrations, the love and the laughter, and the tears and the traumas of caring. Now, in this heart-warming book, you too can meet Marianne, Mum, and the appalling Fatcat.
You will also find plenty of practical tips for caring for someone with dementia and on staying sane whilst doing so, a resources and useful contacts section and Marianne's reflections on caring from a distance, and on when caring comes to an end. Written for anyone, anywhere, who has anything to do with dementia or with caring; in reading it you will know you are not alone.
This book has all the warmth, humanity and insight that made her Saga blogs such a moving and unmissable read. (Saga Magazine Health Editor)
In this extraordinarily moving diary, one woman tells how the experience of having to care for someone with dementia almost drove her mad, yet made her life richer. (Daily Mail 20110326)
This heart-warming, incredibly honest account of dealing with dementia is one to read. (The Sun)
From the moment I read Marianne's first blog, I knew we had something special. Each week I laughed and cried along with her thousands of fans and marvelled at her resilience and wisdom. (Melody Rousseau, Online Editor Saga Magazine )
A deeply moving story of their laughter and their pain. (Daily Mail 20110326)
The Blog 'Keeping Mum' on the SAGA website is truly wonderful. As I read, I found myself moved to tears by the beautiful articulation and reflection evident in the author's thoughts and feelings. One can really begin to 'feel' the emotional journey and empathise with Marianne and her mother as they face numerous daily challenges.
There is currently a paucity of 'real - life stories' in health literature surrounding issues of unpaid caring in the community. A book based on the Blog would make a highly valuable contribution to this topic and help raise awareness. A book would be especially beneficial to healthcare professionals and enabling them to better understand and appreciate the challenging situations encountered by many unpaid carers.
(Andy Richardson Lecturer - Faculty Of Health Sciences University Of Southampton)
Valuable suggestions on how to cope with frustrating circumstances and is peppered with useful tips on dealing with a wide variety of situations from incontinence to living wills. (Nursing Standard)
About the Author
Marianne Talbot left school at 15. She is now Director of Studies in philosophy at Oxford University's Department for Continuing Education, where she specialises in ethics and the philosophy of mind. Marianne cared for both her parents from a distance for 9 years before bringing her mum to live with her. She enjoys swimming, cycling, reading detective novels and going out with friends. A donation of 5 per cent of the author's profits from sales of the book will go to Alzheimer's Research UK.